The ever-joyful GFG Karina evidently hurt herself recently – which is too bad and I hope it doesn’t keep a her down for long. On a side note, I love the post linked here because I utterly agree with her about the “love” comments.
And yes, love ain’t neat and orderly… it’s messy. But loving the one you’re in the foxhole with means committing your life to someone in a way that does not mean you are tied down – it means you are free to be who you are without judgement from at least one other person in this world. Love means accepting the good and the bad, and the times when one spouse needs more from the other.
I can totally relate to this situation, Karina. In my case it was not breaking my hip, it was severely injuring my back and having 2 bulging discs. Fun, fun, fun.
Before hubby and I got hitched, I was bending over the tub one morning in my own apartment when something just clicked in my back and BAM – excruciating pain like you would NOT believe. I hobble to my bed and cry outrageously until my roommate got back from walking her dog. She calls 9-1-1 and the long story short is that for 6 weeks I could do NOTHING for myself. Between my hubby (who was my fiancé at the time) and my roommate, they had to get me dressed, help me go to the bathroom (because I couldn’t even pull my own pants down, let alone sit by myself), help me shower, put me carefully on the couch each morning with plenty of fluids and food within arm’s reach.
The experience was…. humiliating. It was utterly humbling. And I will never again find disgust in how dependent elderly people are upon their caregivers. It is the kind of situation in which you try to retain some shred of dignity. Ultimately, it brought my love and I closer together. When you go thru crap together, you learn a lot about each other. Like whether someone can “stick” in the hard times. And we eloped 2 months later because that situation taught us how short life is and how precious our time together truly is…
CHEERS, Karina! My prayers are with you during this time and I hope your recovery is speedy. And good job for Steve – a nice pat on the butt while you feel like crap is the perfect thing to bring a smile to your face….
